When the baby came one glorious day in March, my entire world lit up. Motherhood is nothing if not demanding, but pays dividends. The risk I took to bring Baby Bird into the world was more than worth it. Even if it hadn't quite worked out perfectly (if Baby Bird had been born with an illness or disability), I certainly could never have regretted bringing him into the world.
|The best risk-reward scenario I ever took|
"I would like to get my nose pierced, but no, I can't (can I?)"
..to the difficult:
"I would like to start my own business" (This is terrifying on so many levels).
So what is it, exactly, that being a mother has taught me about taking risks?
- Taking risks is hard. Once you take the plunge, it can take a lot of time, loving care, and hard work.
- If you put all of yourself into an endeavour, and you listen to that inner voice, you will not be disappointed in yourself.
- The outcome can be wonderful and fulfilling beyond your wildest hopes and dreams
I still have to remind myself nearly constantly that, without risk, there can be little reward.
- I'm taking a risk and returning to ballet classes. This is a low risk, but I'm afraid that I'll be the most out of shape and the largest person in the class. The plus is that I've been in the class before, I know how much I love it, and I know how little it matters what size/shape I am. Added bonus: I get to play the "I recently had a baby" card.
- I'm taking a risk and starting a full-time college program in September. The risks are that it will take some financial finagling to make it work (already done), and that once graduated, I'll have trouble finding work in this field to gain experience. The payoff is that I will one step closer to doing something I am passionate about for a living, and one step closer to being able to own my own business.
- I'm taking a risk by planning to be a business owner in the not-so-distant future. This is a high-risk endeavour, financially and personally. The payoff will be autonomy, doing something I am passionate about, and having a flexible working arrangement.
Why not adapt this thinking to other situations to which we don't often attribute any degree of "risk"?
- Living a healthy lifestyle - I put this on hold so often that I've recently come to understand I must interpret some kind of risk, or else why would I let myself down so often? Risk - failing, or even scarier, SUCCEEDING. Sometimes we fear success simply because it means the unknown. This was the case with motherhood for me. I was terrified of losing my old status quo.
- Living more generously - this is risky because there is a tendency to believe that I will give, give, give and never reap any reward. However, I have only to look at the wonderful people in my life - who are generous, kind, and always there for me - to know that I am already receiving the payback.
Tell me about the biggest risk you've taken and how it worked out for you. What did you learn from taking risks in your life?